I’ve needed new bras for a while now. My Victoria Secret purchase from long ago was starting to fall apart and I’ve had to re-attach the strap each morning. I didn’t really want to go back to Victoria Secret per se and now that I am once again in the plus-size category I was actually excited to get back to Lane Bryant to try on their balconette bras. It was one of my very favorite bras before I lost all my weight.
I used to shop at Lane Bryant all the time. It was the one store that you could find clothes that fit and look good without having to try on a lot of clothes that didn’t fit in the process. Once I lost my weight I took pride in the fact that I didn’t have to shop there anymore despite all the cute clothes they offer. There was a bit of anxiety as I drove to the mall last Sunday. I remember it was really difficult to go from shopping in the plus size section to shopping in the regular section. Newsflash: it is just as difficult doing the reverse. Also, when you go from shopping in the regular size section to the plus size section, there tends to be a negative connotation that goes with it.
I am not sure why it has to be a negative experience though as I had a very positive experience. The sales gal was awesome. I explained that I needed new bras and since I’ve recently gained some weight I’d like to get measured. She gave me the rundown of all the bras they have (I explained I used to be a regular) and then helped me select a few in the size I needed. She even shared with me which bras help her as she has excess back and side fat. I felt really comfortable and wasn’t embarrassed at all about my re-gain.
Side note: right now I am not allowed to open any new credit until our house sells and the new build is complete. If I could though, I’d have opened a store credit card and bought myself some new clothes to go with my new bras. Instead I contained myself.
For the first time in a while I finally felt like the clothing items in the store would fit me. I didn’t have to feel down on myself for trying on a size 16 at JC Penney only to have it not fit. Or if I am lucky to have it fit for it to not look good. I know buying new clothes in a larger size is never a good idea. I’ve done it…twice now. I just wish we could ditch the negative feelings that go with it.
Plus-size women are just as beautiful as skinny women. It is easy to forget that when you live in a world of Weight Watchers. Being healthy is key. We are not defined by our size. We should not be shamed by it either.